No Environment, No Society.

We won’t have a society if we destroy the environment.
Margaret Mead



Posted by Victor E on December 26, 2011 in Blog, Personal Development, Spiritual Developement |

Recently I saw the movie, I AM NUMBER FOUR. It was a movie about some gifted kids that were being hunted down by some really bad guys. The interesting thing is that the title triggered a whole new world of thought—probably a tangent from what the producer of the film thought he would. My thought centered around this phrase: I AM NUMBER THREE.

In my childhood, my mother would communicate the values she wanted us to inculcate into our everyday life into little acronyms and catch-phrases. One of which was J.O.Y.. She taught us that the secret of joy was living a life that centered on this principle and in this order:
J-Jesus, O-Others, Y-Yourself

Joy, according to her, was derived from placing God and everybody else ahead of ourselves. What I call ‘Living Beyond Yourself’. Any distortion of this order of priorities was going to lead to anything but joy.

These days, it is increasingly difficult to live by selfless principles. We live in a world where we are taken for granted because we are kind. People will ask for your last dollar because you gave it up the last time. We live in a society where you are considered a fool because you are courteous enough to hold the door for others or vacate your sit for an older person. We inhabit a world where people ask you for your only meal because you offered to share yesterday.

We are increasingly forced to live a selfish life because of the negative experiences our kindness and generosity provokes. We live in communities that embody the phrase “I’m gonna do me.” But would we stop being kind just because we are not appreciated? No!

When was the last time you gave up something you considered legitimately yours? When was the last time you opted out of your right for the next person? When was the last time you used the greater number of the hours of your day for something other than personal gain.

Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution experience life’s deepest joy: true fulfillment.

Tony Robbins
I watched an episode of Royal Pains some days ago. This episode featured a man who was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis ( a really terrible disease) when he was 19. Let’s call him Mr. Charles, and he is 49 years old now. He said that from the first summer after his diagnosis, he had held campaigns and fundraisers to solicit support for people living with MS. Mr. Charles gave the money donated to societies who dealt with individuals suffering from MS. The get-together in this scene was a platform to garner support for the patients. He shared his working slogan, “Your disease is not you!”
To have joy one must share…
Lord Byron

Towards the end of the episode, a new doctor took a look at his medical notes and realized that Charles may not have been diagnosed right. He obtained permission from a very reluctant Mr. Charles for new blood tests. The new doctor was right and it was confirmed he had been suffering from Lyme’s disease all this while ( another terrible disease).
Now this would devastated anyone, but I was blown away by Mr. Charles’ response. He immediately floated an organization for people suffering from his new disease and went on to study it. This is living beyond yourself!

There’s a great joy in my giving. It’s thrilling. It’s exhilarating. It’s important to be a part of sharing. It is my love. It is my joy.
W. Clement Stone

My mission today is very simple. It can be wrapped up in our little phrase: I AM NUMBER THREE. When that impulsion to be selfish begins to creep up on you and remind you that you will not be appreciated, but taken for granted. Just recant these words: ‘I AM NUMBER THREE’.

‘I AM NUMBER THREE’ says I am willing to give up my rights because I care about God and my neighbors.

‘I AM NUMBER THREE’ says I might lose out now, but I will gain joy and much more in the future.

‘I AM NUMBER THREE’ says I willingly let God handle what my Portion will be.
I don’t mean you should give all you have foolishly. No. There is a need for the application of enormous amounts of wisdom. But I implore you to have a heart that is sensitive to the needs of the people around you.


By opening up and sharing our lives with people—living beyond ourselves—we lead people to God. Cults and other societies employ this strategy. It is high time the church employed its code.
By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.1

Today, I leave you with the secret to a living full of JOY! It is wrapped up in a four-letter phrase:


1Matthew 5:16 (The Message)


10 Ways To Manage A spendthrift Spouse

I think you would enjoy the below as a good read, as much as I did;

A spend thrift partner
is someone that spends
as if there is no

Nothing completes marriage
like love and nothing
scatters it like money

Using some of these
secrets can help you
change your spendthrift

spouse way of living
without ending up in

1. Forgive financial
mistakes of your partner.

It was because there
will be sins that is
why there is forgiveness.

Successful marriage is
simply defined as the
union of two forgivers.
Forgiveness is at the
root of every financially
peaceful relationships.

2. Remove the wrong
label on your partner.

Some people have
put a label on their
partner and that is when
you hear phrases like
“you will spend money anyhow”
“You always think of yourself
alone” and so on.

You need to understand
that you can never influence
your partner positively with
the wrong label on him or her.
No matter what has happened before,
two wrongs can never make a right.

Removing the label means stop
talking anyhow to your spouse
and using the word you “always”
to always to qualify him or
her for something wrong.

Therefore to effectively
change your spendthrift
partner you need to remove
the label and be positive.
The successful couples sit
down to talk over the
financial differences.

3. Adjust Your Own
Negative Attitudes
Remember that attitude
is everything.

Your negative attitude
of proving or behaving
to your partner that you
are better off because you
can save, invest or use money
better will put him or her off.

Get your own attitude right on
your own right attitude is very
important to be able to get
your partner on track.

4. Plan to Attend Financial
seminars together

If you can change what
your partner hears, you
change what he or she 
thinks, and if you change
what he or she thinks,
then you can change his
attitude from a spendthrift
to a frugal partner.

One thing you should
understand is overspending
is a gradually process and
Overspending can be unlearned.

You partner can start keeping
to budget all you need to is
to attend financial seminars
together and he or she is able
to hear all that he needs to hear.

Attending financial seminars
together gives you room to
have time out with one another.